pm-grief

Write a eulogy or obituary for someone you loved when you're grieving and the words won't come — a true, warm piece that sounds like them and like you. Use when asked help me write a eulogy for my father, write an obituary, I have to speak at the funeral, or I don't know what to say about them. Produces a eulogy or obituary drafted from your memories (not clichés), the right structure and length for the setting, the specific stories and details that make it theirs, guidance on tone and delivery (including reading it aloud through tears), and what to include in an obituary (facts, survivors, service details) — so you can honor them well without facing the blank page alone. Written in your voice from your memories.

Handle work while grieving — what to tell your manager and team, how much leave you can take, and how to function (or not) when you're back but not okay. Use when asked how do I tell my boss someone died, going back to work after a death, bereavement leave, or I can't focus at work while grieving. Produces a short message to tell your manager and team (with the boundary of how much to share), what to know about bereavement leave and options, a realistic re-entry plan for the first weeks back, scripts for when grief hits at work or people say the wrong thing, and how to ask for what you need — so work doesn't compound the loss. Not legal/HR advice; points to your policy, HR, and EAP.

Work through who and what has to be notified after someone dies — the people, agencies, banks, and accounts — in a sane order, so nothing critical is missed while grieving. Use when asked who do I need to notify when someone dies, what to do after a death checklist, or how do I handle my parent's accounts after they died. Produces an ordered notification checklist (immediate people, then government/SSA, then financial, then subscriptions/digital), what each notification needs (death certificates, account numbers), how many death certificates to order, what to stop vs. transfer vs. close, and the scams that target the newly bereaved — so the administrative avalanche becomes a calm sequence. Not legal or financial advice; points to probate/estate resources.

Know what to actually say and do for someone who's grieving — the real help instead of the empty 'let me know if you need anything.' Use when asked what do I say to someone whose parent died, how do I support a grieving friend, what to write in a condolence, or how to help without making it worse. Produces words that land (and the phrases to avoid), specific concrete help to offer instead of vague availability, a condolence message in your voice, guidance on showing up over the long haul (not just week one), and how to support without centering yourself — so your care actually reaches them. Points to grief resources when the person needs more than a friend can give.

Get through the first year after losing someone — the birthdays, holidays, and ordinary triggers that ambush you — with a gentle plan for the hard days instead of being blindsided. Use when asked how do I get through the holidays after a death, the first birthday without them, grief is hitting me in waves, or coping with the first year of loss. Produces a map of the anticipated hard days (anniversaries, holidays, their birthday, firsts), permission and options for how to handle each (keep, change, or skip a tradition), grounding practices for the ambush waves, ways to include their memory, and gentle markers for when grief may need more support — so the first year is met with tenderness and a plan, not dread. Not therapy; points to grief counseling and support groups.